The “hot mess mom” is someone we’ve all seen, and dare I say, we’ve all been at some point (read: many points) in our lives. In fact, I might even go as far as saying that we’re all just one blow-out and one ill-timed sneeze away from being an absolute mess everyday of our parenting lives. Still, that’s not to say there aren’t reasons we might need extra support when we’ve inevitably reached that point. Thankfully, there are a number of ways a grown-ass man can help support a hot mess mom.
Of course, most, if not all, moms are capable of dealing with a state of hot messiness all on their own (if the women who frequent the same shopping centers as me are any indicator). And, of course, not every parenting partner is a man. However, it's important that we stop and talk about the ways men can support their hot mess parenting partners, because they're not under the same scrutiny and pressure as their partners. There's no denying that society is much "harder" on mother than it is on fathers, which is why the "hot mess mom" title exists in the first place. Being a "hot mess" really just means you're not 100 percent perfect and put together all the time, a social requirement of all mothers (and not, you know, fathers).
Which is why it's awesome to have help, at any point in the day but especially when I'm feeling like a complete and total mess. No one should be feeling like they're alone in this parenting thing — whether they have a parenting partner or not — which is why a grown-ass man will set up, realize he's not under the same pressures his partner is, and do what he can to support and help a struggling mom, up to and including the following ways: