15 Little Things You Can Do Each Day To Be Happier, Because Why Shouldn’t You Smile Every Day?
byMichelle Horton
If you asked for my most profound takeaways from my 20s, I’d open with everything I’ve learned about happiness. I went into this decade assuming if I did everything right — got the right grades, the right job, the right man — then I’d be happy. And now I’m leaving this decade with a new perspective, knowing happiness isn’t found in the big things; it’s found in the ordinary little ways to be happier. Right here, right now.
A big shift happened after I read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, one of the rare self-help books that actually helped me. Rubin studied the age-old philosophies on happiness and test drove her findings, creating her own personalized happiness project that sparked similar missions all over the world. Because that’s the thing about happiness: You can’t bottle it up for the masses, creating a one-size-fits-all approach. And yet some of Rubin’s wisdom — to act the way you want to feel, for instance — have contributed to my own happiness project of sorts. Her book was one of my contributing factors in creating a sustainable approach to cultivate happiness, even when absolutely nothing is going the way I want. Even when it would be super easy to complain and wallow and cling onto the misery.
Most people assume that happiness comes from the emotional highs in life — getting married, starting a family, getting a big promotion — when science has a very different view on true, lasting happiness. Research shows that happiness is within all of our reaches, no matter the circumstances, with very small and deliberate changes.