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It turns out, knowledge is power and pleasure. In order to have simultaneous orgasms with your partner, you have to know what makes you climax. Once you have that intel, there are some awesome sex positions that will help you orgasm at the same time as your partner. None of these require hours of kegels or getting in touch with your chakras. Though to be honest, those ideas couldn't hurt in your endeavor for the simultaneous orgasm.
Seriously though, the benefits of climaxing at the same time as your partner are not only the intense romance of the connection, but also the awesome fact that you get to pass out after your trip to O-Town. I can't really think of a better way to end the day. Well, maybe if your partner brings you a glass of ice water with lemon, but maybe that's pushing it. Speaking of pushing it, couples in a heterosexual relationship will require a little pushing to get to the Big O. "He's going to have to learn to dip his penis in and out of you at the right moments in order to keep his arousal at bay, and rev yours up," Kim Switnicki of Eve's Garden, a sex positive sex shop for women in New York City tells Romper. And, like most good things in a relationship, simultaneous orgasms require good communication skills between partners. I'm talking verbal and non-verbal. Focussing on the non-verbal, these positions can help you and your partner to orgasm at the same time, every time.
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Voyeur
Most women need an extra 10 to 20 minutes to climax, so it’s good to get a head start. "Men tend to climax faster, and they need to be slowed down to obtain getting there together," explains Switnicki. To solve this problem, one partner plays voyeur while the other self-pleasures.
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Woman On Top
Woman on top is a great position to control the pace. Dr. Ian Kerner told Cosmopolitan that when riding, you should "pull out so only the tip of his penis is in you, and make shallow movements." This way, your clit gets the arousal you need to climax. And you can also get off on holding the reins.
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Fountain
Rome's fountains inspired what I call "fountain," which is when you stand back-to-back in the shower and masturbate. Getting wet and sudsy with your fingers or a toy is fun, and it gets even more fun when you start touching your partner when it's O time. Obviously, this requires communication so practice your dirty talk.
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Arc De Triomph
Cosmopolitan's "Arc di Triomph" is a variation of woman on top that is recommended for dual orgasm. In this position, the woman arches her back and grabs her partner's ankles after she's straddling him. Her body forms a "D" and fireworks ensue.
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Doggy Style
This rear entry provides freaky fun for him and her, and can bring dual orgasm when you practice the reach-around.
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69
There's a reason this one's a classic. "Positions in 69 not only hold an incredible promise for intimacy, but these oral sex positions also allow partners to both give and receive pleasure and time your pace," Dr. Laura Berman told Everyday Health. For added pleasure, bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, and then hold back. When you're finally ready, your climax will be worth the wait.
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Whatever Position You're In, Use Tons Of Lube
Women's Health reported that 50 percent of people asked said lube helped them have an orgasm, so it stands to reason that in order to double your pleasure, double up on lube in any position.
