That first time you have sex after delivery? Well, it's going to be a lot like the first time you had sex ever. There will be a lot of your partner asking how things feel and a lot of readjusting to find a good positions. But that doesn't mean it's going to be terrible. In fact, once you're ready for post-baby sex, you may find that it's even better than before. (I know, but trust me on this.) Getting to that point, however? Not always easy.
You may still be reeling from a traumatic birth, unable to keep your eyes open thanks to that new baby in your life, or just totally over the thought of anybody else using your body for anything. It's a running joke that once babies come, people stop having sex, and it makes sense. There's so much change going on and you have about a million other things to focus your attention on and do. Your partner may be nervous, too, and between the two of you, sex falls way down on the priority list. Totally normal. It takes time to get into your new routine and used to the new life the two of you have made. But, for the sake of your orgasms, I hope you'll eventually be ready to jump back into some sexual activity. If you think you're there, but not quite sure, take a look at these seven ways to know you're ready for post-baby sex. Some are subtle, and some may hit you like a brick in the head, but they're all guaranteed to make you get your mojo back.
1
The Thought No Longer Terrifies You
Was it because you just gave birth or because you're petrified to get pregnant again? Doesn't matter. The minute sex no longer terrifies you to your very core, it's time to get it on with your partner.
2
You Can Feel Your Nipples Again
Breastfeeding is not always kind to your nipples, I know. They may be bloodied, scabbed, or just numb AF. The last thing you want is anybody to even think about touching them, so once you can feel your nipples again, you're ready to jump back in the bed. But let's be honest —you still may not want your partner to touch them.
3
You're Finally Getting Some Sleep
Everybody remembers that first morning in their new baby's life when they woke up feeling semi-alive instead of an extra on The Walking Dead. You're halfway through drinking your coffee when you think, "My god. I did it. I got enough sleep." And that, my friend, means you're ready to spend a little bit of that newfound energy on your partner.
4
You're All Healed From Delivery
This is huge. You don't want to have sex before your doctor gives you the green light or before you feel totally healed. Any discomfort can become worse during sex, so take your time, and wait for everything to heal. But once you're good as new? Wham bam, thank you ma'am.
5
You Can't Stop Thinking About The Sleep Benefits Of An Orgasm
Maybe you're still not sleeping well. Maybe you're utterly exhausted every day, but you don't know how to get yourself to dreamland. If you can't stop thinking about the sleep benefits of an orgasm, I don't blame you. Grab your partner and get to work cumming so you can start snoozing.
6
You Want To Connect With Your Partner
Of course having a baby can make you feel incredibly connected and bonded to your partner, but it's not always a romantic time. You'll know you're ready for post-baby sex when you can't stop thinking about spending some time alone with your partner without a single baby bottle in sight. (Better clear off the nightstand then.)
7
You Want To Try Out Those Giant Boobs
My boobs got enormous after I gave birth to my daughter, and they looked good in push-up lingerie. When you're staring at your new rack in the mirror, I know you're totally imagining the look on your partner's face when you initiate some sex. Give them a whirl, girl. (OK, not a literal whirl. Unless there are tassels. And then we're entering some whole new world.)
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