I am lucky in that I have some wonderful and amazing and relentlessly supportive friends. Some of those friends just-so-happen to be mothers. While I'm not one to believe that you should only have "mom friends" once you become a mom — as so many of my wonderful friends don't have children, and never will — I do think it's nice to share a friendship with women who know exactly what you're going through. So, honestly, the "inappropriate" questions every mom wishes she could ask another mom are questions I ask my mom-friends on a very regular, all-too-frequent basis. (Which is a good thing, you guys, because I'd probably end up begging the moms at our local playground to a have awkward, uncomfortable conversations with me if this wasn't the case.)
One of the most surprising aspects of motherhood, for me, was the overwhelming feelings of loneliness and isolation. I didn't anticipate feeling "on my own" (even though I have a parenting partner and a very wonderful support system) and feeling like no one understood what I was going through. Thankfully, I was able to find solidarity with other moms who weren't afraid to get "real" about motherhood, and dish about the not-so-glamorous parts of parenthood that were throwing me for a metaphorical loop.
I think, in the end, that's what most mothers want and need the most: solidarity. We want to know that we're not alone in our feelings and our experiences. We want to know that other women are going through the same things we're going through, making the same mistakes we're making and thinking the same (sometimes dark and twisty) things we're thinking. So, while the following questions might seem a little "inappropriate" to some, I also hope that you, dear reader, have a mom-friend that you can ask these questions to. If not, email me. Seriously.