It can be tempting to skip naps, or let your kids snack all day during the busy holiday season, but you probably shouldn't. As Seattle Children's Hospital pediatrician Mollie Greves Grow, MD told On The Pulse, "structured routines, even during busy times like the holidays, help parents regulate the emotional and functional changes their children undergo as they develop."

In my opinion, the holiday tradition of making kids sit on Santa's lap when they don't want to seriously needs to stop. Not only doesn't it send a message that they don't have a right to bodily autonomy, but it can actually teach them that you don't respect them or their ability to say, "no," which is so problematic. Friedman suggested skipping Santa if your kid is not into the idea in the aforementioned articled.

Bodily autonomy as a concept seems so basic — everyone owns their own body, and no, means no. But during the holidays, we seem to ask our kids to change their minds about who touches them and how, all of the time, and it sends them the wrong message.

As Friedman noted, giving your kids the ability to say "no," and backing them up can actually help prevent abuse. She wrote, "When we give children the power to make choices about physical contact, it allows them to set important boundaries later and encourages them to speak up if those boundaries are violated."

According to Dayna Abraham at Lemonlimeadventures.com, kids — especially those with sensory disorders — can get seriously overstimulated at the holidays. Making them wear clothes they aren't used to or are uncomfortable can make their day so much less jolly. Rather than making the holidays about your kids looking a certain way, instead, you might make sure they feel their best, by letting them pick the clothes they wear, even if it doesn't mean a frilly dress, sweater, or tie.

The holidays can be a nightmare for picky eaters and their parents. But, rather than make your kids clean their plates, Dr. Kay Toomey of the STAR Institute suggested letting your kid eat the foods they like, and not trying to make them do the impossible during a holiday meal. To avoid comments and stares from judgmental relatives, feed your kids first. Toomey advised, "In order to make your holiday meal go as smoothly as possible, feed your Picky Eater their preferred meal separately first."

I personally hate being told to smile, especially when I am having a hard time. Yet, I find myself doing this to my kids all the time, especially around the holidays when relatives are trying to snap the best photo, or I have paid a photographer for family pictures. In a way, this is just like making them do anything else with their bodies they don't want to, with an added expectation that they pretend to feel happy when they aren't.

According to Christine Carter, Ph.D. a Senior Fellow at the Greater Good Science Center, a better plan is to validate your kids' actual emotions. She wrote, "Even if we don't accept the bad behavior that often accompanies negative emotions, we still want to send the message that all feelings are okay, even the worst ones."

If like me, you find holiday shopping with kids to be a circle of hell that Dante omitted, skip it. As Michelle Madhok, founder of momfinds.com and shefinds.com told TheBump, in the age of online shopping, there's really no reason to brave the crowds and put your kids in prime position for a tantrum if you don't have to.

When we were kids, it was a given that we attend holiday religious services, parties, and tree-lighting ceremonies. While these things are traditions, they aren't mandatory, especially if your kids aren't old enough to behave or won't live up to your expectations.

The Child Mind Institute reminds parents to remember that your kids are kids. Putting them in impossible situations and then expecting them to act like little adults is not only likely to backfire, but also pretty unfair. Instead, they recommend listening to your kids, and responding accordingly. As psychologist Rachel Busman wrote, "we know when they need to wind down, and no one judges us for excusing ourselves from the table to do these things."

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