9 Things People Feel Fine Saying To Girls About Their Weight, Unfortunately
byFiona Tapp
Young children start off loving their bodies in a way that's nothing short of inspiring. They are uninhibited and marvel at their amazing selves and stick out their perfectly round, toddler bellies. They run and dance and skip and they're at their happiest, when they're naked. Then something sinister starts to happen, especially to girls. Our image obsessed culture begins to eat away at their confidence and self esteem and they'e subjected to the things people feel fine saying to girls about their weight; things that erode their natural, wonderful body confidence they were innately born with.
As a teacher, I was always horrified to see girls (sometimes 8-year-old girls, which is so very young) discussing diets and referring to themselves as "fat," when the word "fat" was meant to be a bad, hurtful and negative connotation. A report in The Journal Eating and Weight Loss Disorders advises parents not to mention children's weight at all. Even well meaning comments can start obsessive and unhealthy behaviors. It's far more important to encourage body positive language and to focus on your daughter's achievements and talents, rather than simply her appearance.
We need to be role models for young girls (and boys), encouraging them to see all bodies as equally important, vital and able. We need to use body positive terms when we talk to our kids and always talk about our own bodies in kind and accepting terms. We need to teach our daughter that a number on the scale does not define them, and does not take away from their self worth. We definitely, definitely, need to stop saying the following things to our daughters, when it comes to their weight: