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It’s a huge bummer to have to cancel your baby shower for any reason, especially a global pandemic. While no one will be surprised by the fact that your party is off, it might not have to be totally off, either. There are tons of ways to throw a virtual baby shower and it may end up being just as good as an in-person celebration because everyone can attend, and no one has to buy a plane ticket.
“The beauty of a virtual environment is that it’s way more inclusive than in-person can ever be because there aren't childcare restraints, or people who can’t attend because they’re sick or immunocompromised,” Jessica Brandes Kingrey, event planner and founder of Events By JBK tells Romper. “I think the nature of virtual events is actually really positive. In order to make the virtual party work, however, you need to do some pre-planning and set up the structure.”
"If the party can’t be postponed, then invite people to a virtual party!" Emee Pumarega, founder of EJP Events, tells Romper. "Most families have access to Zoom and Google Hangouts which can be used by any device."
In fact, both of these event planners have hosted virtual parties with great success, so they know a thing or two about which ideas work and which aren't worth trying when it comes to planning a virtual baby shower.
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Make A Timeline (& Stick To It)
Make sure guests know the start time and the end time of the party. "It’s important to timebox it out, no more than an hour and a half. It’s almost better to keep it closer to an hour, and manage the time well," Brandes Kingrey tells Romper. "I think when it’s longer, people get fatigued, people start having side conversations, if some people are physically together they start talking to each other."
The host can make a schedule that includes time for a bit of chatting in the beginning, then games, gifts, and goodbyes. "You want it to end on a really nice note instead of just disintegrating," Brandes Kingrey adds.
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Have Planned Activities
Just because the event is virtual doesn't mean baby shower games are off the table. "You can play measure the belly," Brandes Kingrey says, "and guests can send in their guesses via the chat function." If the game involves guessing or filling anything out, it's easy to play digitally with guests typing in their answers. You can also have everyone share a bit of advice on parenthood which is a sweet time where each person gets the floor for a minute.
Gifts are also a go for virtual parties. "My recommendation would be to mail a gift ahead of time so the mom can actually open them on camera and everyone can watch. This makes for a more similar experience to the real baby shower," Pumarega says. If the shower went virtual at short notice, then this may not be possible and it's fine to have people unbox the gift they bought to show the mom before sending it out.
"Shopping for a baby gift is so fun, as is supporting local businesses. Plus the information you can get from baby shops is amazing. These people are experts in the product," Brandes Kingrey says. "If you’re kind of clueless about what new moms need, [local shops are] a wealth of information. A lot of them will ship directly from their store.” You may not be able to shop in person right now, but many stores are still available for phone calls, and may even offer a "virtual shopping" experience where you FaceTime with an employee and pick something out together.
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Expect A Few Hiccups
A virtual party can be really fun, but it's a new forum for most people and may not go perfectly smoothly. That's okay! If you’re concerned about people talking at once, you can have a "bell or a baby rattle that the host can shake if things are getting off track, but in my experience with virtual events, things will get off track for about a minute and then it comes back," Brandes Kingrey says.
Some interruptions, side conversations, and even small tech glitches will likely happen, which is why it can be especially helpful to have one person bringing everything back if things start to get chaotic. Most importantly, it's good for everyone to be able to laugh at any hiccups and recover quickly. Also it's nice to remember that if the party was a last-minute cancellation and you find yourself stuck with an excess of leftovers, you could "consider arranging for donation to a homeless shelter or food pantry," Pumarega tells Romper.
If you think you’re showing symptoms of coronavirus, which include fever, shortness of breath, and cough, call your doctor before going to get tested. If you’re anxious about the virus’s spread in your community, visit the CDC for up-to-date information and resources, or seek out mental health support. You can find all our Romper’s parents + coronavirus coverage here on this page, and Bustle’s constantly updated, general “what to know about coronavirus” here.
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Jessica Brandes Kingrey, Founder of Events By JBK
Emee Pumarega, Founder of EJP Events
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