People in other countries cannot believe that we have to pay for everything. In pretty much every other developed country on this planet, there’s mandated paid leave for maternity care, noted NPR. Business Insider reported that the average cost of maternity care is almost $11,000.

It's only been since the Affordable Care Act was enacted that maternity care was even required to be covered by insurance. However, high deductible plans mean that countless women each year will be forced to go into debt to have a child, reported The Atlantic. An average delivery, with insurance, runs American parents about $4,500. (And that’s average. That doesn’t include high-risk issues, NICU stays, etc.) For comparison, deliveries in Finland cost a little less than $60.

I missed sushi the most when I was pregnant. It's one of my all-time favorite foods. Apparently, while many countries advise caution toward consuming raw fish, in Japan it's just a part of the diet, and many pregnant people continue to eat it. The trick is eating quality fish that’s been served properly and kept at the correct temperature, which isn’t always the case in many Americanized sushi restaurants. But a 2015 study in The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that there was no risk to a child’s development from a mother indulging in 12 fish-based meals a week, which goes far beyond the recommended allotment of mercury consumption for pregnant people.

Certain doctors now might be more open to pregnant patients enjoying quality raw fish, but America is still playing catch-up to the rest of the world.

Most of us are told by our doctors to go for walks outside, get fresh air, re-enter the world after giving birth. In China? That's not the case. According to this NPR article (and my Husband's Chinese family), you should spend the month after you give birth in bed. The idea is to give your body a chance to fully recover. Typically, your mother or MIL would bring your food to you, and help you care for your baby.

Full disclosure, when I had my oldest, my husband's grandmother lived with us. She brought me broth in bed about one million times per day, and bathed my son with the same hand-sewn cloth she used on my husband. Let me tell you: This is the way to go if you can swing it. There was so much love in the way she cared for us, and it was beautiful.

Here in the United States, we are really strict about not having any alcohol during pregnancy, but this is not universal. In a European study of 7,905 women, 15.8% reported alcohol consumption during pregnancy. The countries that represented the most women were the UK with 28.5%, Russia with 26.5%, and Switzerland with 20.9%. Considering these numbers, a movement has started in Europe to provide more information to pregnant people about the effects of alcohol on a fetus and pregnancy.

Look, America is a country full of people telling each other to just “pull yourself up by the bootstraps already” and postpartum care is no different. Generally, after you’re released from the hospital, your doctor asks to see you again in four to six weeks. That check-up usually includes an exam, some questions about how everything’s going, and then a checklist to respond to that tests you for postpartum depression. And... then that’s it! You’re sent on your merry way.

The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology has suggested that postpartum care should be ongoing and not a one-and-done appointment, but it’s going to take some time to change postpartum care to reflect other countries. In Finland, new parents are given a “baby box” full of essentials they’ll need for their baby, as well as turning the box into a safe bed for baby. They are assigned the same nurse for all of their prenatal appointments (which last 90 minutes to give them time for questions) and that nurse then does a home visit 3 to 4 days after being sent home from the hospital to check on mom and baby’s health. There is a follow-up appointment at six weeks, and then the child remains in the care of this same clinic until they are 7 years old, fostering a relationship and trust between mom and the healthcare providers. (And if you have another baby, they try to give you the same nurse again.)

On top of everything else, mothers and fathers are forced to return to work weeks before they might be physically or mentally ready to do so (thanks to our lack of paid maternity and paternity leave). When we do go back to work, the majority of us do not qualify for any subsidized child care, so we work longer hours to pay more for child care without any meaningful assistance, according to The Washington Post. Out of 41 countries, only the United States lacks a maternity leave plan.