You're under no obligations to disclose your sexual history. Not to your partner, your friends, your family members, or anyone else. In fact, the only individual you should discuss your "number" with is your medical practitioner, and only because it keeps you and those you're involved with safe. You don't owe your partner a piece of your past, especially when it's a past they weren't part of.

Financial freedom isn't only vital, it's essential in maintaining a healthy relationship. When you let your partner control your finances, you could be putting yourself in a position that could keep you from staying safe and, if necessary, leaving the relationship altogether. When you're building a life with your partner, it's rather common to combine finances and talk about money regularly, but make no mistake, you're never obligated to disclose your finances to your partner. If your partner insists on controlling your finances, you may be the victim of financial abuse, a stepping stone to domestic violence and something no one should have to endure.

Your partner isn't owed access to every thought that may or may not come across your mind. While communication is key in any relationship, constant, unending and otherwise intrusive communication isn't owed to your partner. At the end of any day, you get to decide what you do or do not share with your partner. Your thoughts are yours: yours to sort through, own, share if you want, obsess over, or dismiss. Someone constantly asking for you to share everything you think is essentially telling you that they believe they have the right to your person, your inner-most thoughts and that they should control you, instead of you controlling yourself.

You don't have to give anyone a reason why you don't want to be intimate with them. Not the ~dude brah bro man~ who was upset when you turned him down at the bar, and not your partner of however-many years. Just because you've had sex with your partner once or twice or a hundred times, doesn't mean the next time is guaranteed, and under no circumstances do you owe them a bullet-pointed list of reasons why you're just not into it.

You don't have to tell your partner where you're going and whom you're going with. You're not a child, and they're not your parent. No, you're an adult who makes their own decisions, decisions that don't have to be explained to anyone else. Do many partners decide to tell their significant other where they're going and who's tagging along? Sure, and that is definitely a decision anyone is more than entitled to make. However, you should tell someone where you are and who you're with because you want to, not because you feel like you have to, and certainly not because you're afraid that if you don't, your partner will get angry.

Other people's secrets are not yours to share, even with your partner. You shouldn't feel obligated to tell anyone about the issues plaguing your family, or what your best friend is going through at the moment. If it's not your story, it's not yours to tell, and your partner should respect your decision to keep other people's secrets to yourself, as that means you would undoubtably pay them the same respect.

If your partner is constantly insisting that he or she know whom you're speaking with, you might have a controlling partner. Or even just a partner who has an incorrect sense of what they are entitled to from you and their involvement in your life. You don't owe your partner an extravagant explanation and/or play-by-play of your interactions, who you're talking to and what you're talking about. Again, communication is important in any relationship, but a relationship is not an excuse for being essentially beholden to someone else.

You're an adult, and as such, you don't owe someone an explanation as to why you purchased something. Not if it's with your own money and especially if it isn't extravagant, like some over-sized yacht or a massive house. Should substantial purchases be discussed with your partner? Probably. Then again, Jim bought Pam a house without telling her — or going into massive detail about his many reasons why — and things turned out alright for those two.

If you don't want to talk about something, you just don't want to talk about something, and your partner isn't owed an explanation as to why. You have the right to complete autonomy over your body, and that includes what you say and when you say it. You shouldn't be forced into a conversation with someone, and you most certainly shouldn't be force to explain why you don't want to have a conversation with someone. Everyone deserves times and space. Yes, even when you're in a relationship.