There are so many things I want to teach my son. Honestly, the list just keeps on growing; how to throw a football, how to have safe, consensual sex; how to read music; how to negotiate for a raise; you name it, and I want to be the person to teach it. However, I've quickly learned in the two years that I've been a mom, that my son is teaching me things just as often as I'm teaching him. As a result, I can only assume there are things your baby wants you to know about postpartum sex, just like there are things about sex I want my son to, one day, know.
Of course, my kid has no idea what sex is, let alone that his mother and father are having it. He wouldn't know what it is if he saw it or heard it, so it's just my imagination hard at work when I think about postpartum sex and what my kid would want me to know about it. My imagination and, of course, wishful thinking. Motherhood is filled with self-doubt and judgment, and women are (more often than not) desexualized the moment they procreate. (Thank you, patriarchal culture. You're the absolute worst.) Some validation — especially from the one person I am now committed to taking care of and being the best version of myself for — would be nice, even if it's nothing more than a gentle reminder that sex isn't "bad" and having sex doesn't set a "bad example for your kid" and you're entitled to a sex life, even and specially after you have a child.
Since there's no way to know what your baby is thinking at any point in your postpartum life, you might as well just go with the flow, do what's best for you and let your imagination fill in the holes. So, with that in mind, here are a few things I would like to think every baby whats their mom to know about postpartum sex.