From the moment you saw that positive pregnancy test, you've probably been fantasizing about life as a mom. From sitcoms to those super cute diaper commercials, television has a way of making it seem like the job is non-stop bliss. While you've been dreaming about an instant love affair with your new baby, the reality can sometimes be quite different. You may actually have a tough time connecting with your baby, leaving you to wonder what if my baby doesn't like me?
What you perceive as dislike may be something completely different. It may not always feel like it when he's wailing at the top of his lungs, but from day one you really are your baby's favorite. As psychologist Dr. Alison Gopnik told Parenting, babies begin to recognize their caregivers within the first few weeks of life and even begin to prefer them to others.
But like any new relationship, it can take time for the two of you to hit it off. The process of bonding between mother and baby can vary, according to Baby Center. If you don't form an instant connection, there may be other issues at hand. A difficult pregnancy or delivery experience can affect your bonding experience. As Massachusetts General Hospital mentioned studies have shown that postpartum depression can inhibit your ability to bond with your baby.
If you're looking for ways to connect with your baby, breastfeeding, carrying her in a sling, and other forms of close physical contact can help to make it happen. According to What to Expect, the more time you spend cuddling with your baby, the stronger your bond will become. If you still feel like you aren't mastering the mommy thing, you should give yourself a break. As Parenting pointed out, research has shown that caregivers only interpret baby's cries correctly about 40 percent of the time.
The most important thing you can do is to have patience with the process. Continue to respond to your baby's cries and shower him with as much affection as possible. You've just entered a life-long relationship with a complete stranger. While the relationship is sure to have it's peaks and valleys, it promises to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life.
