You already know that a consistent bedtime routine is a good idea, especially if you want your little one to go to sleep well every night. But no matter how great your bedtime routine is, the struggle can be real, especially if you're manning bedtime on your own. But should both parents be involved or should one parent put your baby to sleep each night?
Like most parenting questions, especially in regards to sleep, there is no exact answer here — it really depends on your kid. According to Parents, bedtime is more than just a way to get your child ready for sleep. It's also a great time for a child and parents to bond, especially if you work outside of the home and are away from your baby for most of the day. So should both parents get to enjoy the bonding time? Sure. If that works for both of you. Because so much bonding happens at bedtime, it could be beneficial if you and your partner tackle the routine together so your little one feels like they're getting to spend time with both parents.
The Baby Sleep Site noted that, more often than not, one parent is tackling the bedtime routine, but that parent usually would appreciate some help from their SO. Bedtime, even if your kid doesn't put up a fight, can be hard for parents. You're tired, you're worn out, and it can be lonely to rock, read, and sing while your partner is watching Netflix in the other room. Because of this, The Baby Sleep Site suggested that parents would appreciate doing bedtime together. But not just that — it also increases bonding time for the child and gives them the chance to have interaction with both parents.
However, if more than one parent is too distracting, then you may have to adjust your routine. The Baby Sleep Site suggested that some babies may prefer one parent over the other or, if they're breastfeeding, may be too distracted by another parent to actually have their bedtime routine. It really just depends on your baby. Saint Luke's Hospital in Missouri noted that it's often overwhelming for a child to have both parents involved in bedtime — they can become upset if both parents leave the room instead of having each parent tell them goodnight separately. Parents can alternate bedtime duties, have one read a book and leave the room while the other parent does the tucking in and singing — whatever works for you and your baby.
So listen to your baby's cues. If they seem to do well with both you and your partner at bedtime, keep it up. From a personal experience, I love that my SO and I put our daughter to bed together. It makes bedtime enjoyable for all of us and she really loves the routine. But if you find that it's too much for your baby, make some adjustments so nobody is dreading bedtime. (At least, not too much.)
